People find joy in all sorts of things. Some are in concrete things like cars, sports, art, fashion, exploration. Some in more destructive paths of drinking, drug use and so on. Some find their joy lies in individual people, and they soak up a major case of the happies from that one special person. Some people find it in metaphysical concepts of God, the Universe or Mother Earth. And, as of late, I have started to think about what makes me truly happy.
Well.
My happy is connection. Hands down. I love learning about how people think, feel, play, dream … I love meeting all sorts of people. I love learning all about people’s light + dark. I love the freedom to REALLY dedicate myself to fostering//nurturing these relationships.
I have found myself in a completely different space + place than I was in 12 months ago. I am fortunate enough to be surrounded by loved up, shacked up, coupled up, home owning, career thriving + damn inspiring people – and I am their number one cheerleader + their joy is my joy. Totally and utterly. But if I was to look at my life from a ‘glass half empty’ or ‘what is lacking’ perspective – I might start to feel a little shitty. First + foremost, the most socially pressured aspect of ‘life’, the absence of a significant romantic relationship in my life. And in the past, yep, that would have sucker punched me in the feels on the reg. BUT I’ve suddenly had the most crystal clear + razor sharp epiphany of why exactly I find myself single + totally free + unrestrained in my twenties…
Because a life that is literally overflowing with relationships in all of their forms, a life of uncertainty + unpredictability, of the ability to drop everything + throw myself into what I have a fire in my belly to chase – is the life that I am UNDOUBTABLY meant to live. That is where I find my happy. That is where I shine. That is where I declare + witness crazy richness + abundance (totally not in the cashflow sense … But I love the flexibility of these words so I’m-a use them). And I’m not saying that this will be my path forever or even for long, although I’m totally ok with the prospect of it being so, but for now – it’s undeniably mine.
So I write this (short + sweet) little spiel to all of you who are stuck in a bit of a scary or overwhelming mindset with a focus on lack or absence (and this is regardless of relationship status by the way) that operates from a place of fear instead of love – THIS is your path. This is where you’re meant to be. I acknowledge + hold space for all of those blessings that you may or may not be able to see. And I trust that the moment you surrender to, love + appreciate your own journey – that is the moment that life really + truly lights up + smile-until-your-eyes-squint-up JOY will take over.
Blessings and a blazingly white-hot trail for each and every one of us x
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